Is my questioning correct?

One asks, ‘how do I overcome my anger?’ Is that an intelligent question? Or is that merely a continuation of anger.  Being angry one asks ‘how do I overcome my anger’ The question itself becomes stupid. It is the wrong question. Merely in the loop, the continuity of anger. The question has the background of past experience and prejudice. Maybe it is that anger is…

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Long Term Travel Preparation – Handling your belongings

In 2013 I decided to change my lifestyle. The emphasis is on “decided”, going through it all the way through, is another question. Anyway, one thing that sticked is the travel. I left my leased apartment in central London, in warren street, and booked a one-way ticket to Thailand. And I returned after nearly a year of roaming. Did n’t do a plenty lot, went…

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Fear of hurt in relationships

Who gets rejected? Who is rejecting? I am afraid of being humiliated, maybe that’s because of one’s childhood. Strict parents etc. The reason does not matter. Knowing the reasons for problems hasn’t solved the problems. I read a book, read something about the psychology of the problem, then I say ‘oh that must be it’. Then I go on to tell someone else, or even…

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Pain

Seeking pleasure when there is pain. That’s what we do when we reach for that chocolate bar when we feel sad. That’s what we do when we reach for the next bottle of alcohol. These are very obvious. Subtle ones are, seeking a change in oneself. To be better. Seeking spiritual enlightenment. To know better. Join a community, believe in something, God so it makes…

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Praise

Don’t praise me. I don’t like it. You are praising me because you want something. It puts pressure on me to perform. You praise me once, the next time I think I am expected to perform better. Praise implies there is criticism on the other end. Praise can not be without criticism. They exist together. Praise as criticism, is just words. They don’t mean anything….

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