If I hear one more person saying that they are practicing gratitude, or telling someone to do so, I am going to lose my shit.
It only seems logical to me, that genuinely grateful people don’t have to practice it.
Also it doesn’t work. It is like trying to be humble. You can not do it.
And then there is think about all the people who are suffering, think about all the good things that you have. Well, that is essentially feeling good about yourself by comparison. And inevitable you’re going to feel bad whenever you come across someone measurably better than you. That is not gratitude.
“Be grateful for what you have” is a dumb advice. Often it is given by people who are against others trying new things, taking risks and wanting more. That is just them enjoying the security and comfort of their little bubble.
Practicing gratefulness is a reaction of not being grateful, that you are trying to be grateful. That will backfire and you will end up more miserable.
Although, I have done it in the past, creating a gratitude list certainly made me feel good about myself. Though it is only superficial, like chanting a mantra. Or repeating something again and again. Like trying to convince one of something that is not true. It works momentarily, but very superficially.
I don’t think there is any value for gratitude in our lives. The real value I think, is to be with the ingratitude that we feel. And not running away from it through gimmicks.
Learn the art of not naming your experiences. Which is just to not move away from experience, or be aware of that movement. How does ingratitude feel like? Don’t call it ingratitude. Or be aware of the sensation that you call ingratitude. There is no gratefulness or ingratitude when you are attentive. It is only when you are inattentive, that you start to compare and feel ungrateful, or grateful.
Measurement is good in the physical world, not so helpful in the psychological world.
More often than not, we consider ourselves ungrateful because, maybe someone mentioned it, a parent, or a friend. These are just little tricks they themselves to control others. Don’t give a lot of value to those comments.
All kind of practice is a means to an end. The same is true with practicing gratitude. The practice becomes more important than the actual feeling. Plus, we don’t really care about being grateful. It is another way to get to where we want to get to currently practicing gratitude. And it seems rather easy practicing gratitude and being comfortable thinking that happiness, the riches will come at some point in the future. That kind of practice becomes rather silly.0