One asks, ‘how do I overcome my anger?’
Is that an intelligent question?
Or is that merely a continuation of anger.
Being angry one asks ‘how do I overcome my anger’
The question itself becomes stupid. It is the wrong question. Merely in the loop, the continuity of anger.
The question has the background of past experience and prejudice. Maybe it is that anger is bad. Anger must be controlled. Or it is just the mere labeling of the sensation as anger.
Or acting on it, being angry I should express my anger. The presupposition maybe is that I should express my emotions. A fear of maybe not being heard. Which then becomes the obsessive ‘one should express’
The same goes up with accepting anger.
Some say, If I accept the anger it subsides, anger or any other emotion.
That is not different from the anger itself. You are still in the loop and you say you accept. Meanwhile being angry. The principle behind the modern, ‘kindness’, ‘compassion’, ‘service’, ‘love’ etc.
While the underlying thing is boiling.
Rejecting and accepting are the same thing.
The thing that is common in both situations, accepting rejecting, experiencing and then question, etc
Is the sense of self. The experiencer, the one who is looking.
Either verbally, or the sense of looking.
The basis of the looking, or the ‘stepping back and observe’ approach is still the sense of self.
What remains if that sense is not.
The need for observation
Perhaps, the need for observation is still fuelled by the desire to be somebody.
A mere, replacement of material achievement with spiritual achievement.
But in the end, the way of living has not changed, merely has a different form.
A different way that allows us to compare ourselves with others, to measure our success.
Drama of language plays a part
Certain words used in questioning creates drama. A sense of sentimentality. Which then becomes very important in our day to day lives.
Love, we become attached to the word, and the sentiments behind it, without actually not knowing what it is. We have certain conclusions, which gives us a certain feeling. Allows us to cry, get angry etc.
Drama creating language plays a part.
When you say ‘you are hurt’, are you really?
Who is hurt?
May be one likes the drama.0