Lifestyle

I am a programmer, that’s what I do for a living.

But my lifestyle is quite different now than it used to be when I started my career.

I started working back in 2005, so that is 15 years now. I am 34 years old.

I worked constantly until 2012, the first couple of years in Bangalore, India. And then I moved to the UK in 2007.

I hadn’t even had a proper vacation for me, my holidays were mostly to visit my family back in India. I hadn’t been to anywhere outside the UK at this point.

Once my debts settled back in India, and my sister got married, responsibilities as a single Indian son subsided.

I did not have a clear sense of purpose after that.

Then I realised I was lonely.

Being with family all the time, also made a little time for myself to think about my life, individually, and got me thinking where “my life” is going.

I was struggling with loneliness.

I have never had a girlfriend, or even sex at this point.

So I learned how to make that happen.

In that process, I picked up the 4-hour workweek and I had started travelling to eastern Europe. I realised it was easy to earn in GBP and spend that in cheaper countries, the quality of life was better, girls were more beautiful, etc.

The book had a lot of useful tips about lifestyle design, where it mainly talked about an alternate way of living rather than doing the 9-5.

Naturally, I wanted to learn that.

But not very successfully.

I still learned a few things about the remote working lifestyle, and location independence.

I tried to start Shopify stores, affiliate marketing etc, including this blog. Again not very successful. What worked was working as a freelancer on Upwork. Until it was too little money for too much effort. Even though that was making me money remotely, I was way underpaid.

I could easily come to London to work intensely for a few months and then take a mini-retirement of 3 months or so. Spend the hard-earned money in cheaper countries, and spend some more time with my family.

It is not remote working, but still a step ahead.

That’s what I do now. Successfully. I have n’t stopped the idea of passive income and remote working yet, but I think that will happen in time.

Now, I stay in Airbnbs and Hotels, where my work takes me. I don’t have a permanent residence.

Some of the important documents, a Mac display and some very old clothes are in a self storage facility in Kings cross in London. And all my mail goes to a mailbox. They can forward the mail to where ever I happen to live at a point in time.

That is about 6 months of work in a year for that last two years, and in 2014 and 2015 combined, I probably worked for 3 months. The rest of the time I was traveling exploring places, taking courses on self-development, learning how to coach people (life coaching), mainly on relationships and sex, etc. Basically teaching people how to create more options, behave in relationships, and have more sex, etc.

I was not very good at it, but I was very good at not being polite, telling what I thought. Somehow people seemed to appreciate that, they would come to me to see what I thought about them.

So, I wasn’t sitting idle, but not necessarily ‘working’ to earn a living.

All the self development courses worked well until 2018, when I saw they were not doing much to how I felt, a lot of external things changed, but what I felt did n’t change much.

So I am trying a different approach now. But “work – no work” balance is pretty much the same, the same pattern, Work for about 6-9 months and then do something else. Much like the mini-retirements that the 4-hour workweek talks about.

The next thing would be to totally escape from trading time for money, so I don’t have to put in the time to make money. Move from service-based to more product-based. Passive income.

I am trying to write regularly here on this blog, and maybe hone my writing skills.

And find ways to get the stuff that I hate doing, like SEO, by someone else. Not quite at that stage yet, but that it the plan.

Youtube is also is in my headspace.

I am learning to do youtube videos. It is very uncomfortable.

I don’t consider myself as an attractive person, rather an average chum, or maybe below average. So I haven’t taken a lot of videos of myself or in a family gathering.

We were a very picture averse family.

I still can’t find any of my childhood photos, or memories. Maybe one or two, if a relative finds an old one sends me.

I am not very fond of my accent. It comes out weird in Video. I don’t like it when I play it back and hear myself speaking.

But, I think these are the common problems with all youtuber.

I have to start somewhere, though.

So I have all these insecurities and struggles to make all this happen.

I don’t have much of a plan. Open sharing is my plan for now. Sharing my opinions. And I know these are my opinions.

May be down the line with minimal direction I can get where I want to be.

Because excessive planning also paralyzes me. And no planning gets me nowhere.

I think having a direction is good, and doing more of things that seems to be working. Well, it is still an idea, it does n’t seem to be the reality for me yet.

I got sick of travel too, I only want to spend less money than I earn. And me being not so organized around money, this seemed to work well. Because when I was in London, I would spend all of it and be in debt. And being in cheaper countries meant I was getting more value for money spent.

Also, I don’t have a lot of savings, I end up spending that traveling.

For the past year or so, I have n’t traveled much. Just been to the US and India.

I am still in the 9-5 when I work, which I detest.

So, some sort of passive income. That is the goal.

And staying sane, during that process, not work like a pig. Be effective.

Work smart and not hard, something that I learned, after dealing with office politics at work.

So right now, I am getting back to affiliate marketing, and youtube channel. And may be stick with something that I am very comfortable with, like programming and tech stuff.

And my struggles with people in interpersonal relationships etc.

I want to save a bit more, and not travel as much, and instead of arbitrage of money, may be earn even a bit more.

I am adapted to a far more comfortable living now. An apartment (Airbnb) for myself, where I don’t have to deal with others, I have the freedom to move around, I have the entire kitchen for me, and clean bathroom.

Living back in London occasionally will be good because I still love that city. So many things to do, and so many beautiful girls to look at.

But at the same time, planning for my older ages, not necessarily saving up, but as I said, something passive that will get me some money regularly.

And doesn’t involve me as much to run it.

I don’t have a permanent residence now, and I travel with just one cabin bag, which has freed me up from the worries of bills, etc. So that is good.

Airbnb has become popular and so many other services for short term accommodation, it is not easy to find a perfect place that I like, but I always have the option of leaving if I don’t like it. I don’t feel stuck in one place.

So it is possible to move away from a traditional lifestyle, and to a more comfortable one, filled with experiences.

One step at a time.

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