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Why do relationships fail? What blocks forming relationships?

Follow my blog with Bloglovin Are we conditioned to lie? Now I know that may seem to be a jump from the question ‘why do relationships fail’ but bear with me. We have a lot of automatic responses. A result of habit, picked up as far as back from our childhood. Saying the right things, the socially acceptable thing. Even simple things like saying, thank…

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How words block us from observing.

We are satisfied with words, explanations. We see an object and name it, feel an emotion and name it. Never facing the emotion, or seeing the object. We name and dismiss, it is an automatic habitual process for most of us. See a flower, name it so, but never actually look at it. We see the explanation and not the flower. This is how we…

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Fear of hurt in relationships

Who gets rejected? Who is rejecting? I am afraid of being humiliated, maybe that’s because of one’s childhood. Strict parents etc. The reason does not matter. Knowing the reasons for problems hasn’t solved the problems. I read a book, read something about the psychology of the problem, then I say ‘oh that must be it’. Then I go on to tell someone else, or even…

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Doing nothing

Set an intention – the spiritual teacher said. It is all about intention. Set your intentions before meditation. that’s when you have to seriously question, whether the so-called spiritual teacher knows anything about meditation. I know something about meditation. And it is not that. The intention is a product of thought. And meditation is anything but thought. Intention creates effort. Because it sets an expectation….

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Why courses, books or any Guru’s advice will not save your relationship

  It’s laziness. When we look up to a guru, a book, a coach, a savior, it is the relinquishment of responsibility and making someone else responsible. Someone else is the teacher, the coach, etc.  If you are the very first person on earth, who would you look up to? You have to find out for yourself. That brings a great deal of competence and…

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22 Reasons Why You Fail in Relationships

Some relationship advice now. I am not a relationship expert by any means. I have some experience in coaching people on relationships before. I have taken numerous courses around this subject, even got married for two months (fake) to try out what marriage feels like. Now, it is not the real deal but it is something. These are my observations in my own relationships and…

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