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Why do relationships fail? What blocks forming relationships?

Follow my blog with Bloglovin Are we conditioned to lie? Now I know that may seem to be a jump from the question ‘why do relationships fail’ but bear with me. We have a lot of automatic responses. A result of habit, picked up as far as back from our childhood. Saying the right things, the socially acceptable thing. Even simple things like saying, thank…

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Is my questioning correct?

One asks, ‘how do I overcome my anger?’ Is that an intelligent question? Or is that merely a continuation of anger.  Being angry one asks ‘how do I overcome my anger’ The question itself becomes stupid. It is the wrong question. Merely in the loop, the continuity of anger. The question has the background of past experience and prejudice. Maybe it is that anger is…

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Fear of hurt in relationships

Who gets rejected? Who is rejecting? I am afraid of being humiliated, maybe that’s because of one’s childhood. Strict parents etc. The reason does not matter. Knowing the reasons for problems hasn’t solved the problems. I read a book, read something about the psychology of the problem, then I say ‘oh that must be it’. Then I go on to tell someone else, or even…

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Praise

Don’t praise me. I don’t like it. You are praising me because you want something. It puts pressure on me to perform. You praise me once, the next time I think I am expected to perform better. Praise implies there is criticism on the other end. Praise can not be without criticism. They exist together. Praise as criticism, is just words. They don’t mean anything….

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Doing nothing

Set an intention – the spiritual teacher said. It is all about intention. Set your intentions before meditation. that’s when you have to seriously question, whether the so-called spiritual teacher knows anything about meditation. I know something about meditation. And it is not that. The intention is a product of thought. And meditation is anything but thought. Intention creates effort. Because it sets an expectation….

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Why You should not ‘Cultivate’ Self Love To Overcome Anxiety

Dealing with anxiety can not be done by practicing courage or self-love. You are just merely setting yourself up for another ideal and inviting more anxiety The thing about practice. Practice makes your brain dull. You can master a certain skill by repeating it, even make it unconscious, a muscle memory to do a certain task. But it makes your brain dull. There is no…

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