Deal with facts

Fact: I am afraid Non fact: I should be courageous Why do we deal with something illusory all the time? We’re afraid, we create an idea of courage and say I should be courageous. Here, fear is the only fact. The idea of courage is not facing fear. It is turning away from fear. To find an answer to a problem, the problem must be…

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Fear of stupidity in meditation and relationships

We are afraid to be stupid or to appear to be stupid. Because of this, we are afraid to fail, and attempt things that can’t be well controlled. We plan for failures. We’re bringing the past failures and accounting for that in this planning, and that way repeating the same pattern. Planning is basically this. To re-create something already known, using the methods to avert…

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Care for fear

When we look at our fear with attention, without the past recognition of fear, look at the feeling of it. There is great care. That attention perhaps brings about a certain sense of care towards fear, and perhaps love towards fear. I am not talking about ‘self-love’, which is stupid in my opinion. I am not talking about cultivating anything. I am talking about attending…

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Is your fear a fantasy?

Before you start on to overcome your fears, have you questioned, if your fear is an idea or not. We don’t attempt certain things in our life because of fear. Imagining the fear, and your reaction to it. So, it is basically your imagination. Right? You have an excuse that your are afraid. It feels real, I know. But it is a fantasy. What might…

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Why do relationships fail? What blocks forming relationships?

Follow my blog with Bloglovin Are we conditioned to lie? Now I know that may seem to be a jump from the question ‘why do relationships fail’ but bear with me. We have a lot of automatic responses. A result of habit, picked up as far as back from our childhood. Saying the right things, the socially acceptable thing. Even simple things like saying, thank…

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Is Fasting not working for me?

Back in 2012 I weighed 85 Kg. Don’t know what that is in pounds. Can’t be bothered. I dieted, I was down to 63 kg, in about 8 months. Firstly I cut out all the sugar. Then I plateaued. Then I cut out all the carbs, only meat, and seafood. Lost some more weight. Then I plateaued. Then I tried intermittent fasting. That seemed to…

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