45 Tips For Happiness In Life – A Manual For Happiness

Here are some practical steps and tips for happiness in life that you can start implementing today.

Happiness requires choice

Happiness requires choice from your part. The world itself is filled with confusion.

Choose a perspective that is helpful to you and support your happiness. One can choose to look at life as a series of negative and unfortunate occurrences or you can view it as something helpful and positive.

In other words, happiness is created not discovered. It is a choice.

Happiness requires active risk-taking

No one gets happy by passively accepting whatever the life throws at them.

Actively go for what you want, knowing you are actively participating in creating your life, makes you happy.

Continuously take risks that scare you. This builds your “courage” muscles. Knowing you are acting courageously improves your self-image.

The passiveness is riskier in that regard, because you are acting at the cost of your confidence.

Happiness involves faith or ‘As-if’ thinking

One of the main ingredients is ‘As-if” thinking, this means that you should be open to the things that you don’t know.

In order to learn something new, you need to keep aside all your current beliefs and believe in something new. You need to be willing to […]

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4 Stages of Learning Any Skill

4 Stages of Learning Any Skill

Conscious competence ladder or Four stages of learning or Four stages of teaching?

This was first articulated by Martin M Broadwell as “four stages of teaching”, later developed as Four Stages of Learning Any New Skill in the 1970s by Noel Burch who was an employee at Gordon Training International. Also sometimes referred to as conscious competence ladder.

When it comes to learning a new skill, this model can shine some awareness into the emotional and psychological stages that you go through.

This will allow you to be aware of what is happening and make better decisions during the learning process.

This model is based on the premise that before learning any new skill an individual goes through a 4 stage psychological process.

level of competency

Unconscious incompetence – You don’t know that you can’t do it well.

This is often the first step in learning any new skill. He simply does not know until someone tells him or he comes across a situation that brings this incompetence into his awareness. At this stage he moves on to the next one. We […]

By |2018-06-27T19:59:51+00:00June 27, 2018|Personal Growth Tips|0 Comments

Why You Don’t Trust Yourself

People have asked me ‘do you trust others?’

They say, it must be because I don’t trust myself.

That I don’t trust others.

I don’t know.

But I do know this.

I don’t trust others when I don’t know them.

I don’t know if they are a threat to me and they will act in my best interests.

And if I don’t trust myself it is because of the same reason.

I think I am unpredictable.

I don’t know myself.

I don’t know if I act in my best interests or I am a threat to myself.

Even if I were a threat to myself, knowing that will give me some confidence to trust myself.

At least I know, where I stand.

I have not explored the depths of who I am.

I don’t know how I will react to people, things and situations.

I don’t know me.

And how I can I trust me when I don’t know myself?

You don’t trust yourself because you don’t know yourself.

One must know himself.

By |2018-06-24T12:38:23+00:00June 24, 2018|Personal Growth Tips|0 Comments

Nobody Understands Me

“Nobody understands me”

Have you ever thought of this?

I used to have this thought.

I dug deeper.

I have this thought because ‘I don’t understand myself’.

I justify myself with thoughts that justifies my actions. Then I give these reasons to someone else.

And I am judging myself from inside, the don’t understand me.

Why? because I don’t believe in it myself

These are excuses, made up thoughts.

I have sat down and thought about it, to make sense of what happened.

May be it is a situation that I feel responsible for.

May be I feel humiliated and I want to protect my self image.

Then I make up reasons to protect this image, tell the other that this is why I behaved like that.

I don’t want you to reject me.

But, I am rejecting myself, the other is often unaware of this.

The truth is I don’t understand me.

By |2018-06-24T11:47:39+00:00June 24, 2018|Personal Growth Tips|0 Comments

How To Build Confidence And Destroy Fear In 30 Days

How do you build confidence and destroy fear? Well it is not that complicated. Here are some tips.

It is not all in your head

“It is all in your head! don’t worry take a breath”

How many of you have heard this from a friend when you are afraid. ‘Don’t worry, it is all in your head’

Well, the fear is very real.

And that comment is not going to help.

The good news is though that you can train your mind to trick fear.

So, what cures fear?

Each action that is taken towards facing the fear, cures the fear a little.

Action cures fear.

For example, you are afraid of failing in the exam? Well study more. That will be a positive action that will give you more confidence.

Spend more time taking action to cure the fear that spending worrying.

That is just simple common sense.

Another example, you’re worried that your relationship is falling apart?

Well take actions that will contribute to your relationship. Enquire about your partner, as them how they are feeling. Go on a date or whatever that you guys feel that will nurture the relationship. Offer […]

By |2018-06-23T23:05:05+00:00June 23, 2018|Personal Growth Tips|0 Comments

4 Quick And Easy Ways To Extend Your Life

Here is a great great video of Jane McGonigal, a video game designer talking at TED talks about resilience and simple practical activities that you can do every day to add years to life.

She says you can add 10 years of life just by doing the things in the video.

I was captivated by the video, and plus the activities are simple and fun.

It is merely this.

1. Boosting your physical resilience

Making fists and throwing it up in the air

2. Boosting your mental resilience

Clicking your fingers and counting down from 100 to 1 as fast you can

3. Boosting your emotional resilience

Search in google or youtube “baby __(your favourite animal)” and have a look at the videos and images

4. Boosting your social resilience

Shake someones hand’s or texting or writing a note to someone saying thank you. She says you literally can form emotional bonds with a person for shaking their hands for more that 6 seconds. Time to try this on. That person is more likely to help you or you are more inclined to help them.

If you do this everyday, she does the math […]

By |2018-06-22T15:01:34+00:00June 22, 2018|Personal Growth Tips|0 Comments

Top Books To Read

Books play an important role in the learning process. They are also a one stop shop for helpful information without having to search for it all over the internet.
Here’s my top books to read recommendations.

Courage And Self Esteem

 
The subtle art of not giving a fuck – Mark Manson
Maximum confidence – Jack Canfield
Hardcore self-help – Robert Duff
The four agreements – Don Miguel Ruise
Thinking fast and slow – Daniel Kahneman
Braving the wilderness – Brene Brown
Developing self compassion
Radical self acceptance
Beyond fear – A toltec’s guide to freedom
The 5 second rule – […]

How To Instantly Know What You Want

People often tell me, they don’t know what you want. I have several tools up under my sleeve to put their minds to rest and to give them clarity. Here is another such tool.

An exercise to know what you want

Here is an exercise I use with my friends.

This is a fun one to do as well.

You call up a friend and say I want to do desire discovery with you.

Here’s the framework.

Your friend will ask you ‘What do you want?’

And then you will answer what you want, how much ever superficial or at the surface level it may seem.

And then your friend will ask again ‘What do you want?’ and you answer again, so on and so on.

Each time when you answer try to go a level deeper to answer, you might hit something.

It is also important to say whatever the first thing that comes to your mind. Otherwise you will start filtering and will not fully come out.

It is also important that you do this with a friend who you can relax it with.

If you don’t have a friend that you can chat with at this level, try our community of people who […]

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Who else wants to know what they want?

How to know what you want

A lot of people have this question right?

If only I knew what I wanted to do.

And then you somehow decide on what you want to do another voice kicks in

The voice is  ‘What if this is not really what I want?’

If you look at this, this is really the voice of doubt. Because you don’t want to fail.

And the best way you can’t fail is not to go after what you want, right?

Wrong!

A better course of action will be, try that thing out.

And then decide whether that is something that is you want to do or not, rather not starting it all all together.

The other thing that I have learned is that, even if you start, you need to patient for a while.

Because, especially in that start, your doubts and fears will be screaming at you. And it will do everything to get you off the track.

This is indeed a challenge against yourself, at least against the doubtful you.

The only way to defeat the doubt is to doubt the doubt.

You can’t get rid of your doubts that […]

By |2018-06-15T15:05:07+00:00June 15, 2018|Personal Growth Tips|0 Comments

Appreciate Yourself More With This Tool

A practical tool that you can start doing from today.

I have been doing this practice called Victory Log.

It is simply this.

Log something in your notes in your phone, every time I have a victory.

A victory can be anything from making the bed to making a $1000 sale.

It can be as simple as ‘I had a thought where I appreciated myself’ Because often people judge the judgement.

And I have seen that I am feeling better and better every time that I write something in there. Because it is an act of acknowledgement.

How many times we give ourselves chance to appreciate ourselves.

And when I am telling myself “I did not do anything productive today” or I am having self defeating thoughts. I just look at this. And it gives me a smile.

It is a practical tool that you can start doing today.

Mine usually looks like

– I wrote an article on my blog
– I gave a tip on personal development to my readers
– I made my bed
– I meditated for 20 mins today
– I looked for writing jobs online
– I said hello to a stranger

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